When Christopher came out to his parents in the mid-1990s, they did not disown him or force him into conversion therapy. When Linda had her feminist click around the same time, she did not leave her husband or her religion. Their worlds did not change completely, and yet they were turned upside down. The road to acceptance bridged a sea of negative societal expectations and traversed a mountain of guilt.
For a very long time, I resisted the idea of a sort of collaborative memoir. I asked myself why anyone on earth, besides my family and friends, would be interested in me. That may still be true. But I am now convinced that both of us, son and mother, have been on somewhat parallel journeys shaped by the great cultural shifts in women’s rights and gay rights. On those journeys, we have encouraged each other and been encouraged by Bob, my husband and partner for almost 55 years, and Mark, my older son and brave soul himself. Each of us in our own way has tried to contribute to these societal efforts to expand notions of what it means to be fully human, fully ourselves.Linda Drajem, from the Introduction
This collaborative memoir explores how each author left behind limiting, outdated roles that no longer worked, and kept only what mattered most: their individuality and their family. The book provides a map of how the authors questioned their religious beliefs, spoke truthfully to one another even when it hurt, and continue to work together as a family in love.